Stories
Every man has a story. Our work helps a man claim and tell his story without judgement. Please click on a man’s name below to read his story.
- Scott Bollen, Wisconsin
- Stefan Brombach, Germany
- Tom Reid, Washington
- Wayne Stevens, Australia
- Stephen Caudana, Southern California
- Steve Moore, Alabama
- Tom Newton, New York
- Chris Mihai, Northern California
- Chris O'Donnell, United Kingdom
- Dominick Bencivenga, New York
- Jeremy Roy, Texas
- Bob Sabath, Maryland
- Steve Freeman, Australia
- Richard Fay, Australia
- Tim Sullivan, Colorado
- Geno Gallegos, New Mexico
- Chris de Lastic, Georgia
- Bob Juarez, California
- Mike Anderer, California
- Mike Keller, Missouri
- Brian Mueller, Ohio
- Richard Gibson, Indiana
- Andy Gray, Oregon
- Bill Priesmeyer, Missouri
- Don Griffin, North Carolina
- Tony Murray, Louisiana
- Ned Abenroth, Washington
- William Bedell, Texas
- Jim Cadiz, Southern California
- Michael Dunne, New York
- Matt Woollett, Louisiana
- Paul Meister, Pennsylvania
- Jeff Bradshaw, Nevada
- Raymond Dougherty, Northern California
- Rob O'Keefe, Minnesota
- Michael Wright, Oregon
- Bob Colaresi, Illinois
- Damien Faughnan, Arizona
- Jamey Bontrager-Singer, Indiana-Michigan
- Chuck Rihm, Ohio
- Brad Pickel, South Carolina
- Joel Blunk, Pennsylvania
- Kevin Anderson, Minnesota
- Jim Clarke, Southern California
- Steve Conroy, Northern California
- Terry Frisbie, Texas
- Stephen Gambill, Texas
- Joe Hebert, Louisiana
- Brad Kuluris, Arizona
- Belden Lane, Missouri
- Adrian G. R. Scott, England
- Jim Taylor, Texas
Reflections on the Journey
Read reflections from our men about their spiritual journey.
- Men Transforming Men: Connecting through the Illuman Strava Club– Steve Hicken, Northern California and Brad Pickel, South Carolina
- A Reflection on Illuman Virtual Council Tom Pawlak, Indiana-Michigan
- UMBRALES: Una Gran Aventura– José Valencia, Tennessee
- The 12 Steps and the MROP/UMBRALES– Bob Juarez and Teo Zaragoza, Southern California
- Illuman’s Council Practice– Anthony Monticchio, New Jersey
- It’s the Illuman Story– Stephen Caudana, California
- Valio la Pena la Espera (It was Worth the Wait)– Jose Valencia, Tennessee
- Men Writing for Change- An Interview with Brian Mueller, Ohio
- Every Man Should Drum- If Not for Fun, for His Health- Bill Schneider, Australia
- Loyal Soldier Work and the Healing of Veterans- Belden Lane, Missouri
- Such a cry for lamentation by Giovanni Perez, Southern California
- How did it happen?– Anthony Monticchio, New Jersey
- The Gift of Something Amazing and Unexpected- Steve Conroy, Northern California
- 75 Years of Life- Richard Rohr, New Mexico
- A Letter from Stefan Brombach and our German Brothers
- Reflection on a Recent Drum-Making Retreat in Northern California– Gary Kalus, Northern California
- Reflection on Council and Mirroring– Steve Freeman, Australia
- A Man’s Response to the Horror of War- Belden Lane, Missouri
- Rucksacks and Memory Bags- Peter Fishpool, United Kingdom
- Forgiveness begins with me- Joel Blunk, Pennsylvania
- Your only as Sick as Your Secrets- Adrian G. R. Scott, England
- A Reflection on Death and Resurrection– Steve Conroy, Northern California
- Guys don’t get mad, they get even– Terry Frisbie, Texas
- Why have Rites of Passage– Brad Kuluris, Arizona
- The wild joy of drumming– Belden Lane, Missouri
- A Reflection on when Kingfishers Catch Fire– Nate Bettger, Oregon
- UMBRALES report from Illuman’s first bilingual MROP– Southern California Chapter
- We Don’t Need Another Hero– Richard Fay, Australia
- Umbrales del Hombre: Ritos de Pasaje– Southern California Chapter of Illuman
- In Gratitude for Your Support of Illuman– Joe Hebert, Illuman Treasurer/Louisiana
- A Window into the Weaver Role- Jim Clarke, Southern California
- The Day After the Election: One Wisdom Elder’s Response– Belden Lane, Missouri
- Reflections on the Illuman Initiator Program– Jim Taylor, Illuman Weaver, and Paul Horcher, Initiator Program Attendee at Illinois MROP in August 2016
- Reflections on Young Men’s Rites of Passage– Peter Fishpool, UK Convener, and Chuck Rihm, Ohio Convener
- It didn’t happen that way- A reflection on Council in a Texas prison– Belden Lane, Missouri
- Compassion: The Heart of the Gospel– Jim Clarke, Southern California
- You are a Beloved Son of God– Lenny Sclafani
- To boldly go where no one has gone before– Jim Taylor, Texas
- Living the impossible– Stephen Gambill, Texas
- 30 things in 30 years– Kevin Anderson, Minnesota
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